Okay, I lied; it’s not really a trick. What I’m about to tell you is a proven way of taking your self-confidence to the next level and that is by……drum-roll please….exercise!
Let me tell you why. When you spend time on taking care of yourself, you will end up with a higher feeling of self-worth. This is because you know it is not easy to get up before the sun rises and follow through with your workouts while the rest of the world sleeps – and yet you did. You placed importance on yourself. You will know that you did what had to be done, even while no one was watching. With this comes an immense amount of self-respect which will most definitely increase your self-confidence.
If you feel down for more than two consecutive weeks, it could be a signal of depression. It’s particularly difficult to admit you have a problem if you’re a black woman. However, you should know that this condition is not a sign of weakness or a negative personality. It is a major public health problem that affects many people.
Here’s the list of all types of depression: Continue reading
Have you ever wondered why you do certain things and not the others? Why you’re doing things in certain way? What motivates you? Motivation is the essence of any achievement. The way you motivate yourself determines whether you’ll fail or succeed.
Motivation is the drive or the impulse you feel before any action. Often, the real motivation is hidden in a subconscious part of your mind. So it’s your job to examine the motivation that stands behind your actions and to set it straight. Continue reading
When you’re feeling hope, you believe things that are beyond your control will happen in a way that will lead to fulfillment of your very important wishes.
Hope is the essential part of spirituality and true belief in God. I’ve decided to dedicate the entire blog category to hope, because I think hope is very important for the black community. I also believe that the majority of black people are hoping in a wrong way. Continue reading
Words are mighty. As the Holy Bible teaches:
“In the beginning was the Word,
and the Word was with God,
and the Word was God.
– John 1:1”
What are constituents of the prayer? Words. But not just any kind of words. Words in the prayer are not the ordinary words we use in our day-to-day communication. These words are connected with other realms; the realms that we, as human beings, cannot comprehend, yet. Continue reading
You’ve just given birth to a wonderful baby, still you’re not feeling thrilled about that. In fact, you’re feeling unhappy, weepy, moody, and irritable. Don’t worry! Baby blues are perfectly normal. New moms often feel better after getting some rest and help with their babies.
However, if your baby blues continues for more than two weeks, then maybe you’re experiencing the postpartum depression. You should continue reading to find out more about it. Continue reading
Feeling self-confident about your abilities is extremely important for attaining your goals and living fulfilled life. Self-respect is the major ingredient of any self-confidence. When you respect someone you feel friendly and positive feelings towards him or her. Similarly, when you respect yourself, you feel positive and friendly about yourself; you value some of your qualities and respect your needs and feelings.
For many black women self-respect doesn’t come naturally. It’s no wonder, since many of us have been raised by only one parent, most often a mother. So most black women didn’t receive enough attention from a single parent. They didn’t feel important during their childhood; they didn’t think their feelings and desires were important and should be respected. So majority of black women have no self-respect and low self-esteem. Continue reading
Do you have hard time saying no and setting boundaries, so you keep agreeing to do things you really don’t want to do? Afterwards you feel emotionally drained and physically tired? Do you tolerate disrespectful behavior, comments and pushy people? Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself? If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, you really need to start setting boundaries.
Setting boundaries is crucial for respecting yourself. When you develop self-respect, you’ll be on your way to building self-esteem. Continue reading
If you’re depressed or you once were depressed, it’s important to recognize these 3 steps that lead to depression. If you recognize these steps and deal with each one of them appropriately, you’ll be able to prevent becoming depressed. Continue reading
I actually wanted to entitle this post ‘Have self-esteem like Rihanna’, but I found out, earlier this this year, she’s received counseling to deal with her self-esteem issues. Although, superficially looking, one might think Rihanna is bursting with confidence, reality is different. This almost became yet another stereotype of a black woman. I’m sure you know many black women who are, like Rihanna, covering their insecurities with their ‘confident attitude’.
While, on the other hand, Beyoncé is someone whose self-esteem comes from within. Someone who’s a real role model for what I want you to achieve! Continue reading