To Hope or Not Hope: That is the Question?

When you’re feeling hope, you believe things that are beyond your control will happen in a way that will lead to fulfillment of your very important wishes.

Hope is the essential part of spirituality and true belief in God. I’ve decided to dedicate the entire blog category to hope, because I think hope is very important for the black community. I also believe that the majority of black people are hoping in a wrong way.

I’ve experience this when I was depressed. People told me that I should hope and pray on it and that my depression will pass by itself.

Black folks are very religious. We hope a lot, but we often do that in a way that isn’t helpful and won’t lead to fulfillment of our desires. So let us pause for a while and reexamine hope.

When you should start hoping?

Let’s say you want to become a prima ballerina. This is your very important wish and you hope that one day it’ll come true. However, if you’re just passively hoping that you’ll become a prima ballerina one day, chances for that to happen are very slim.

On the other hand, if you’re proactive about your wish and you’re doing everything in your power to become a prima ballerina, you’ve increased your chances for that to happen. For example you’re exercising every day, attending the ballet lessons, listen to your teacher, and so on.

At one point, when you’ve done everything you could and when you’ve realized that there is nothing else you can do, this is the moment when you should start hoping. At that point, you’ve actively worked toward the fulfillment of your wish. It’s time for you to be passive now, that is to start hoping.

You realize that there’re certain things that you cannot control, there’re forces more powerful than yourself, forces beyond your powers. You believe in God. Hope and faith will give you strength to hang on, until your desire is fulfilled.

So you see now the connection between hope and spirituality; and hope and faith in God.

When you shouldn’t hope?

As you’ve just realized, you shouldn’t hope in case you really, really, really wish to become a prima ballerina and then you’re just sitting on your sofa, watching TV, and doing nothing to actually become a prima ballerina. So you’re just hoping that your wish will come true one day.

Another situation, when you shouldn’t hope is when you have false hopes. Imagine the situation: you are overweight, you aren’t doing anything to lose weight, you’re just sitting on your sofa, eating too much chips and other unhealthy food, and watching TV. However, you have a really strong desire to become a prima ballerina. People around you, your friends and family, are supporting you by saying you can do it. They’re giving you false hope that you can actually, one day become a prima ballerina. So basically you have unrealistic wishes.

In this case, you have two choices: one is to stop wishing to become a prima ballerina and realize the reality; and the second one is to start exercising, lose weight, and actively try to become a prima ballerina. And maybe one day you will.

Hope and illness

When it comes to illness the effect of hope is not negligible, even to doctors and scientists. We all know about the placebo effect.

If you’ve ever been depressed, you know how hopelessness can prevent you from overcoming the depression. So for the depressed, hope is essential, but of course they should seek help and not just hope that their depression will go away.

When we’re talking about the incurable illnesses, such as some forms of cancer, hope is also very important. There are numerous cases of terminally ill patients, who managed to survive due to hope and faith in God. They’ve managed to beat the statistics, even after their doctors predicted gloomy outcomes.

Despite this, some psychiatrists still believe that the best position for a person, in this kind of seemingly hopeless situation, is to be aware of both outcomes: positive and negative. They don’t advice these patients keeping their hope high.

Share below: What do you think? Are these psychiatrists right or wrong? What wishes are you hoping will be fulfilled for you in the future? What did you actively do to be closer to your goals?


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Angela BristerAngela Brister is an author, speaker and black women’s empowerment expert.

Practical self-help tips in her latest book, BLACK WOMAN Just Get Your Hair Wet: Self-Empowerment to Reach Your DivinePotential was inspired by her personal battle and ability to overcome fear, pain, stress, and sadness that held her back for years. This is an essential guide to unlearn old habits in order to power on courageously and successfully for today’s black women. While scaling newer heights of ongoing challenges may appear scary, this seasoned pro helps women and girls believe in themselves—and how to excel.

Through her Woman Empowered to Thrive [W.E.T.] teleseminars and workshops, Angela prepares woman to welcome change into their lives, by unlearning old habits so they can get through challenges, reach higher heights and excel in every endeavor they undertake.Women who have participated in these seminars have experienced immediate, life changing breakthroughs. On a personal note, Angela currently resides in Indiana with her daughter Taylor. When she isn’t enjoying time with her daughter, she likes reading, golfing and torturing her body at least three times a week spinning. If you’d like to hire Angela to provide consulting and training for your business and/or to speak at your next event, please visit this page.

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