How to Be the Truly Strong Black Woman and Uplift Your Spirit

The time has come to reinvent the Strong Black Woman! It’s time that you become the truly Strong Black Woman.

If you start striving to become the truly Strong Black Woman, pretty soon you’ll discover the real strength in you. The magnitude of this strength may surprise you, because this strength comes directly from your spirit. This strength is only available when you completely acknowledge, accept, and love yourself; when you start living your true life, as God intended.

But before the reinvention, let’s see how the Strong Black Woman appeared in the fist place.

How the stereotype of a Strong Black Woman became something implied?

Throughout history, Strong Black Women successfully survived many hardships. Being strong, for a limited period of time, help them survive. This psychological mechanism served Black Women well, because they were in a oppressed position.

Take, for example, Harriet Tubman, the very synonym of a Strong Black Woman: she escaped from slavery, freed thousands of slaves, worked as a farmhand, lumberjack, laundress, cook, refugee organizer, raid leader, intelligence gatherer, nurse, healer, revival speaker, feminist, fundraiser, and conductor on the Underground Railroad.

Still, Harriet was the truly Strong Black Woman. Although, it’s not emphasized, I’m sure that she also cried, laughed, and expressed her feelings freely. This is something that goes without saying. She wouldn’t be so successful in so many endeavors otherwise.

In today’s society this stereotype is something that is expected of every Black Woman. I’m sure you have at least one woman in your life that is considered strong. She could be your grandma, mother or an aunt. It doesn’t matter. Of course, you’re expected to follow these footsteps, as well.

The stereotype of a Strong Black Woman is imposed and is doing more harm than good to Black Women. It prevents black women from expressing their feelings naturally and this leads to many health issues, such as depression, anxiety, many somatic issues, etc.

If you, for any reason, decide to embrace this mask, you’ll end up feeling cramped, your spirit will shrink, and your fullest potential will be hidden from yourself and the world. Do you wish this for yourself?

How truly Strong Black Woman looks like?

My intention here is not to create another Black Woman stereotype. On the contrary, I just want to provide some guidelines that you can use in the times of adversity. You can print this out and put it on the wall, so you can read this every day.

This will uplift your spirit and remind you that you are the truly Strong Black Woman!

  • Strong Black Woman knows that her ‘weaknesses’ are what make her strong. She embraces all her ‘weaknesses’ because her goal is to be whole and holy.
  • Strong Black Woman is not afraid to reach for help.
  • Strong Black Woman offers help without judgment.
  • Strong Black Woman knows how to set boundaries and when to say no.
  • Strong Black Woman knows herself and her feelings well enough, and she expresses her feelings freely. She is constantly learning new things about herself and her feelings, though.
  • Strong Black Woman has high self-esteem and self-respect.
  • Strong Black Woman knows how to motivate herself and to accomplish her important goals.
  • Strong Black Woman is not afraid of fear. In fact, she’s afraid of many things. She knows that these are her opportunities to practice courage and expand her self-imposed boundaries.
  • Strong Black Woman has a healthy relationship with God. She knows that if she has a problem, she can’t just pray on it and hope it’ll pass. She knows when the time for prayer and hope is. She understands that she has to take an active part in solving the problem and only then God will help her.
  • Strong Black Woman is often happy, playful, and creative.
  • Strong Black Woman is powerful beyond measure when she’s in tune with her spirit and herself!
  • Strong Black Woman is loving, kind, joyful, and compassionate!
  • Strong Black Woman doesn’t afraid to get her hair wet!
  • Strong Black Woman is free!

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