Feeling self-confident about your abilities is extremely important for attaining your goals and living fulfilled life. Self-respect is the major ingredient of any self-confidence. When you respect someone you feel friendly and positive feelings towards him or her. Similarly, when you respect yourself, you feel positive and friendly about yourself; you value some of your qualities and respect your needs and feelings.

For many black women self-respect doesn’t come naturally. It’s no wonder, since many of us have been raised by only one parent, most often a mother. So most black women didn’t receive enough attention from a single parent. They didn’t feel important during their childhood; they didn’t think their feelings and desires were important and should be respected. So majority of black women have no self-respect and low self-esteem. Continue reading

I actually wanted to entitle this post ‘Have self-esteem like Rihanna’, but I found out, earlier this this year, she’s received counseling to deal with her self-esteem issues. Although, superficially looking, one might think Rihanna is bursting with confidence, reality is different. This almost became yet another stereotype of a black woman. I’m sure you know many black women who are, like Rihanna, covering their insecurities with their ‘confident attitude’.

While, on the other hand, Beyoncé is someone whose self-esteem comes from within. Someone who’s a real role model for what I want you to achieve! Continue reading